The screenshots are still in your camera roll.
I know what it's like to question your own memory. To replay a conversation at 1am trying to figure out if you're the problem. To be told you're “too sensitive” so many times you start to believe it.
I've watched it happen to women I love in relationships — falling for the wrong person, slowly losing themselves in the confusion. And I know the quieter version too: the kind that doesn't come from a partner you can leave, but from family — the people who are supposed to be safe, whose words still land hours later.
Manipulation stops working the second it's named.
All manipulation tactics work the same way: they're designed to be invisible.
So I decided to make them visible.
Every move has a name. We hand you the name.
Paste the conversation. Sane Girl points at the line, names the tactic, and tells you plainly what it was doing. It never labels the person — only the move.
Your memory of events gets questioned until their version feels safer than your own.
You raise it. They deny, attack, and end up the wronged one. You apologise.
Three weeks of silence, then flowers — a way back in that skips the conversation.
“I'm not mad. It's fine.” Sarcasm, sulking, the three-day chill — hostility that never says its name.
For the ones leaving, and the ones who can't.
Getting out
Seeing it clearly enough to walk away. The pattern named and the receipts saved — so the door stays open on your terms.
Staying, for now
Tied by history and obligation — where “just leave” was never an option. Staying clear-eyed is the whole goal.
Standing next to her
If you're the friend who keeps saying “that's not normal,” this hands you the actual words.
Studying the playbook
Here before you need it. Learn the moves now, and you'll recognise them the first time — not the fiftieth.
Sane Girl is for all of them. It names what's happening, hands you the receipts, and reminds you your gut was right — whether you're getting out, staying sane where you are, or getting ahead of it.
Built by women, for women
I'm the psychology geek behind Sane Girl — the features, the language, the way it names what's really going on. My sister is the one who brought it to life technically and made it real.
Two women, building the tool we wished every woman had. No boardrooms, no outside investors — women-owned and women-first, made by people who understand what it feels like to be told you're “too sensitive,” and who refuse to make you prove yourself to anyone.
We're staying unnamed for now, for the same reasons a lot of you would. What we'll say is that we've each been the one rereading the thread at 1am — and neither of us will ask you to prove anything.
— The Sane Sisters
Your Reality Vault — your evidence, your timeline — is completely private. We can never see it, access it, or open it. It's yours alone.
When Sane Girl analyzes a conversation, the text is processed securely — but it's never sold, never shared, and never used to build a profile of you.